A Bit About Me
I am a bicultural and bilingual (English/Portuguese) therapist learning everyday from the intersectionality of my social location. I primarily see myself as a naturalized immigrant of color shaped by the life events of immigration, acculturation and the challenges of creating new and sustainable relationships. I understand the impact of leaving loved ones and community behind or having a feeling of not belonging and how important it is to our wellbeing to establish a community and create secure and nurturing relationships.
I am dedicated to understanding the impact that certain life events, namely traumatic events, can have on us on a personal, relational, emotional, mental and physical level and how that can affect the relationships that we have with ourselves and others.
My training began in the community counseling context, and I was fortunate enough to work where social justice was a primary concern and where I could help communities from diverse ethnic, cultural and socio-economic backgrounds overcome life, family and relationships concerns, anxiety, depression and trauma.
I continue to feel just as fortunate to continue my work as a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist working primarily within a trauma-informed EFT framework. I strive to help my clients overcome their life and relationship challenges by creating a nurturing and safe space while walking beside them on their journey of growth.
Therapy with Me
I believe that humans are bonding, relational beings who need to feel secure and loved in their close relationships. We need to know that we matter to our loved ones. We need to feel heard, seen and accepted for who we are. I also believe that the quality of our relationships can deeply impact our mental wellness in general.
As a therapist, I am guided by the idea that the more effectively dependent we are on each other, the more independent and adventurous we become. In other words, the more we feel connected, able to trust and count on a romantic partner, a family member or a friend, the more we feel capable of taking on life's challenges, the more uncertainty we can tolerate, and the braver we become. It is when we stop feeling that security and trust in our relationships, when we stop feeling emotionally connected and not heard and seen that issues arise all the while being unable to access deep emotions and needs and communicate them clearly to one another.
I will help you and your partner identify your pattern of emotional disconnection and tension in your cycle of criticize and defend or demand and withdraw bringing it to the fore and slowing it down by tracing the steps in the pattern and outlining each partner's coping strategies and attachments styles. With this new information and understanding, partners are better able to change the steps of this "dance" in new and effectives ways that foster better communication, understanding and emotional connection.
The goal in session with me is to help you get unstuck from ineffective emotional and relational patterns and coping strategies by creating more effective ones and learning to effectively regulate emotion. In the process, you will work on potential anxiety and depression that can arise from feeling disconnected from yourself and others while becoming more secure within yourself and your relationships. You will be able to create a stronger sense of self and view of others that will allow for living with the fullness of who you are and create and maintain secure and nurturing relationships.
Master's in Counseling with Emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy from San Diego State University
Master's in Applied Linguistics from San Diego State University
Bachelor's Degree in Communication Design from University of Lisbon, Portugal
Advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) - Externship and Core Skills
Advanced training in Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) - Levels 1 & 2
Basic Principles of Somatic Experiencing (SE)
Expanding the Self with EFIT and SE
Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
$150 / 50 mins
Free 30 minute phone consultation
I do not accept insurance but can provide a superbill to submit to your insurance for reimbursement.